Student Ministry

Katy Perry and Student Worship: A Few Thoughts

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Yesterday I spent time with outstanding student pastors at First Baptist Church, Woodstock, Georgia. This includes my former student and a Timothy of mine, Matt Lawson. Matt serves as high school pastor at FBCW with Rick Young, a blessing himself who leads middle school ministry.

I sat in on a roundtable session with about 75 student pastors. They asked some vital questions that I hear a lot as well. One has to do with the vital place of corporate worship through music in student worship services. This question matters — the Millennial generation values music greatly, perhaps more than any other to date.

Providing subpar music to students can actually be counterproductive. Remember when you watched a children’s choir of 5 and 6 year olds sing in a service? They were not on key, one little girl kept lifting her dress, and a little boy picked his nose to his parents’ horror. But when finished everyone clapped, because after all, they were only kids. But that won’t fly for students.

Katy Perry has become a phenomenon in pop music, easily one of the most popular artists today. Did you know her first CD, done as a youth under her legal name of Katy Hudson, was a Christian record?  Raised in a Christian family, her talent became obvious early on. She was forbidden to listen to any secular music (which caused her only to be more interested in it). She went with her youth group to protest outside a Marilyn Manson concert. At that concert her student pastor snuck her into the concert, where she commented: “My youth pastor and I wanted to see what it was all about—I was blown away. Everybody was in this kind of head-bopping trance—it was almost otherworldy.”1  The concert seemed to enthrall her with a sense of wonder.  I wonder whether or not her trajectory would have been different had she been exposed to excellence in music through her church. Perhaps it would have made no difference.

I am not justifying Katy Perry’s shift nor am I encouraged by her student pastor’s role in her life. But it does serve to illustrate in one life the hunger of a generation for music that has both passion and talent. So how does a typical church help students to worship corporately?  The reason I take a band with me is because I have worked with bands, and I want to work with capable musicians who also deeply love Jesus. I personally value the role of leaders in worship through music.

The specific question in the roundtable had to do with those who lead worship who in fact do not have much ability. What do you do when you have limited musical ability and yet want to involve students in corporate worship?  Here are a few of my thoughts in no particular order.

  1. Get heart and ability, not one only of these. Some student worship bands have pretty talented musicians, but they do not get what it means to lead worship. They become entertainers and are pretty good at it, but I do not think that is the point. Others have a real hunger to lead people to lift up Jesus, but their good hearts do not translate into musical ability. Both musical ability and passion for God matter.
  2. If you don’t have capable musicians among your students, find someone a little older, a college student or young adult, who can help to both teach and lead in worship.  I believe in using students in ministry as much as possible, but only when they can rise to a level you would expect of older adults as well. Do not condescend to them and treat them like kids by “giving them a chance” when they honestly stink. If you do not have capable leaders, then I suggest you do as little corporate singing as possible until you develop leaders.  When you do sing, go unplugged. Go simple, acoustic, and focus on the lyrics and melodic songs. The more simple the more the focus can be on  the God we worship.
  3. If you have them, use leaders in rest of church who connect with students who aren’t “youth people” only. In our church the guys who lead worship in two of our four Sunday AM services (including our son as drummer) also lead our college/young pros worship on Wednesday and our youth worship time Sunday nights. Since making this change to use these leaders our attendance and spirit on Sunday nights has increased. This also helps to connect your “youth service” to rest of church as some of the same people lead in each place. Otherwise your student worship time can be a functioning parachurch ministry (which makes it that much harder to involve students in the life of the church). I am not a big fan of overly segregating students anyway, so the more you can focus on the whole church and not their little corner of it, the better for long term discipleship.
  4. Look long term. Maybe you do not have good leaders now, but perhaps you can find someone – a music teacher, an adult with musical ability, who can over time build a group.  You exercise patience with students in other ways, why rush just to fill the need of a worship band? Maybe you can use a developing group on occasion for a song or two until they are ready to lead fully.
  5. Teach what worship is.  This is actually the most important. Stop treating students like kids. Teach them a theology of worship. Do you have one yourself? The last several books I have written have a chapter on corporate worship, including music, because I know it is vital, but I also know if we do not know why we do what we do we will never accomplish what we desire. The reason I want excellence in musical ability is not because I want to compete with the world, but because our God is excellent, He created a beautiful, excellent world, and we should present to Him our very best. But teach students worship has less to do with music and more to do with the gospel, less to do with style and more to do with the Spirit, less about them and more about Jesus.
  6. If you can find someone in the community, perhaps from another church. Pay that leader if you can.
  7. Finally, it is much better to do things well in every aspect of ministry than to do things shoddily. But when we consider that the point of corporate worship is to sing songs of praise to GOD, we should give particular focus on excellence there. This is why I take a band with me. I expect outstanding ability and fervent hearts in those who will stand before students. You should expect no less either.

1 Stephanie Trong, “Just Kind of Doing My Own Thing,” Delta Sky Magazine  (May 2010), p. 69.

Feet Don’t Lie: Learning about a Younger Gen by Their Shoes

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Saturday I took our daughter Hannah to a Valentine’s meal as I do annually.  I love these times at this season as they offer a great opportunity to talk about life, godliness, and relationships. We both love going to IHOP together, so we checked out the new one on Six Forks in North Raleigh.

I’m not sure how it is where you live but in RDU eating breakfast on a Saturday morning means a long wait. This particular IHOP happens to be in a strip mall that includes a store called Vertical Urge, mostly a supplier of skateboard gear. But they have one more item Hannah loves, one you can scarcely find except online.

This store sells TOMS. You know TOMS, those cloth shoes you wear with no socks that are so ugly they are almost cute. Here is why Hannah, and our son Josh, and many other Millennials I know love TOMS: when you buy a pair, they donate a pair to a needy child. Hannah has six pairs and displays her TOMS banner proudly on her car.  She had me buy a pair for myself, but since I am 51 years old I prefer to wear mine with socks.

A lot has been written lately about the Millennial Generation, the largest generation of young adults in U.S. history. Go to amazon.com and search “millennials” and you will see what I mean. I have read about ten books dealing only with the business side of this generation and their impact on the economy, for instance.

Get the books. Read the stuff. Do some research. But if you want to know this generation, start by looking at their shoes. You can tell a lot about a generation by the shoes they wear.

In middle school about a decade ago our son Josh had to have those Nikes. You know, the stylish ones, the ones that stores charged more than a Benjamin to purchase. We pushed him to buy them on sale and talked a lot of the lure of commercialism.  But these shoes defined the a generation of young men who wore them. Those were the days you read of people assaulting one another for their shoes. Most young men had a pair that seemed about 3 sizes too big and bright enough to light up the night. But that has changed.

Today, you are more likely to find Josh and his peers wearing TOMS, or if they wear sneakers, they will often be seen wearing Chuck Taylors. You know, Converse. The ones that don’t cost 3 bills.  Yes, they are still inflated in price, but nothing compared to the Nikes of the last decade. The shoes I wore when I was a middle schooler are back in style. Maybe this is just another example of the pendulum swinging in fashion. Maybe. But I think it means more.

Look a little deeper and you will see that Chuck Taylors have more to do with music than basketball. Nike’s economic engine runs via sports, but Converse grooves to music. Chucks became huge in no small part because a lot of pop musicians started wearing them. When Dwayne Wade’s contract ended with Converse they let him go to Nike because the people who sell their shoes in culture are musicians, not athletes.

Want to know this generation? Check out their music. And not the music on the local rock station. Learn about Indie music. After all, that was the story of the Grammies this year in case you missed it.  But all you had to do to know that was to look at their shoes.

So music is a big deal to a younger generation. No shocker there. The impact of social media, file sharing, and indie music nuances the music of the current younger gen.  But there is more to the shoe story than music. There is yet a larger story.

Social justice. The phrase evokes a variety of images from Glenn Beck’s apoplexy to a Social Gospel Movement that had very little gospel, to a renewed focus on mercy ministries in the name of the gospel.  From American Idol to new shows dotting television this year, a focus on giving to others has been growing for some time. Fueled by a younger generation a little tired of the consumerism of the times. TOMS shoes illustrates a very vital link in understanding this generation: they are about giving to help those in need. From invisible children to human sex trafficking, from orphan care to cutters (To Write Love on Her Arms/Love Is the Movement, for example), this generation has a penchant toward activism that helps the less fortunate and the broken.

Talk to student pastors interested in getting the gospel to their community and you will hear stories of meeting needs in order to share Christ. Talk to a group of teenagers in your church and, unless your youth group is the stereotypical games-driven crowd interested only in themselves, you will find some who are burdened for a friend who is a cutter or a cause like adoption. Our Hannah already plans to adopt, and she is 17 and a long way from marriage. I recently met a 14 year old girl in one of the largest SBC churches in North Carolina who has made no small stir via social media to raise awareness of human trafficking.

In other words, the TOMS trend has far less to do with a movement in shoe styles and far more to do with a movement of compassion.  And inside our churches a growing number of millennial youth tie the gospel to caring for people. Don’t get too nervous, Jesus did a lot of that as well. So did the early church. Yes, a lot of it is superficial and much of it is trendy. But make no mistake; if you want to understand this generation, you need to be aware of the causes for which they care. You don’t have to wear Chucks or TOMS next Sunday when you preach (please don’t), but knowing young people and what matters to them demonstrates we actually care for them.  And they care about music and about those in need.

After all, you can see it in their shoes.

Missional Student Ministry at SEBTS — Real World, Real Time, Just in Time

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When it comes to teaching student pastors, we at SEBTS do not have a long list of awesome faculty members teaching student ministry, a variety of degree programs with a litany of particular directions of study, or many of the kinds of things some seek in student ministry training. Truth is, we do not have a lot of things others have. Maybe we will one day, but not now.

But at Southeastern, both in the college and in the Seminary (both via Masters and Doctoral programs) we have created a missional, gospel-driven, global culture–a theologically enriched, biblically grounded, and evangelistically and culturally aware environment where student pastors in training can gain a holistic understanding of ministry out of which to lead students and families. We get the gospel and twitter, missions and facebook, faith and culture, biblical teaching and social media.

We do not teach our student pastors that student ministry means a group focused inward on the churched youth, a social planning organization to keep students busy doing stuff so parents can do their own thing, or a place where what Christian Smith of UNC Chapel Hill calls a therapeutic moral deism is taught.  Instead, we challenge student pastors in training to be centered on the gospel and to give themselves to bringing the biological home and the local church home together to equip students to think and live like missionaries in the international mission field we call the United States.

I am excited to be involved in training this generation of student pastors at SEBTS. I know I am not the best at this, but I love the challenge.  I am glad Dr. Jimmy Scroggins will be helping us in a January course as he has probably forgotten more about student ministry than I know.

We do not want to train every student pastor. Just send us the best 10%, those who want to give themselves to changing the world for the gospel. Okay, I am sure the recruiting team does not like me saying that so I am speaking unilaterally :-) . Come visit. Look me up. I would love to meet you.  In fact, I am preaching in chapel October 28 as part of a Preview Day before our Leadership Rocks Conference that weekend. Come see us. Let’s unleash an army of missionaries from this millennial generation.

Here is a little ecard my webmaster Micah Fries produced to give you a little summary of what we are about.  Maybe you can pass it on to others.

Suggested Reading for Middle/High School Students

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As Professor of Evangelism AND Student Ministry at Southeastern our focus will be, to borrow the phrase from my book on student ministry, to raise the bar. We will focus on helping both church families and nuclear families raise children who will walk into the adult world ready to live as missionaries in an increasingly pagan culture. One of the ministries already doing that is Student Leadership University whose founder, Dr. Jay Strack, is a friend of many years and whose president, Brent Crowe, is a former student whom I had the honor of mentoring in his SEBTS years. SLU prepares students for leadership in whatever career they seek. Check them out at studentleadership.net.

One of the sayings at SLU is this: who you are years from now will be based on the people you meet, the places you go, and the books you read. I would start with meeting Jesus, going to Him often in prayer, and reading His Word! Beyond that, reading great books will help any student to become the person God calls him or her to be.

I am beginning to compile recommended reading for students (i.e. those in middle and high school). Here are some, although I welcome your suggestions!

I. Philosophy of Youth (i.e. books that go against the current tend of treating students like 4th graders):

1. Alex and Brett Harris: Do Hard Things. The subtitle of the book by these 19 year-old twins says it all: “A teenaged rebellion against low expectations.”

2. Alvin Reid: Raising the Bar. Sorry for the self promotion. Though written for youth leaders, has been helpful to students as well to understand how they can set higher standards for their teen years.

3. Alvin Reid: Join the Movement. Last shameless self-promotion I promise! This book is a popular/devotional look at how God has used the young in significant spiritual movements.

II. Theology:

Note: I am convinced students can handle more theology than we typically give them, or as I like to quip, they learn trigonometry in high school, they can learn theology in church! Here are some books dealing with theological issues that a teenager can handle. The books are listed alphabetically by author.

1. Deitrich Bonhoeffer: Life Together. A great book to help rethink the church. The Cost of Discipleship would not hurt either!

2. C.S. Lewis: Mere Christianity. Must read for any young adult.

3. J.I. Packer: Knowing God and Concise Theology. Knowing God is a classic in devotional theology. Packer’s Concise Theology is just that.

4. John Piper: Don’t Waste Your Life. A devotional theology for students.

5. Cornelius Plantiga: Engaging God’s World. A delightful introduction into major theological issues using the framework of Creation, Fall, Redemption, New Creation.

6. Charles Ryrie: A Survey of Bible Doctrine. Summary of key doctrines by a renowned conservative writer.

7. James Sawyer: A Survivor’s Guide to Theology. Written for college students, it provides a brief summary and overview of major theological positions.

Finally, Wayne Grudem and Millard Erickson, both of whom have large theology texts, have a “baby”version of their larger theological works designed for younger audiences.

III. Spirituality/Spiritual Formation:

1. Donald Whitney. Ten Questions to Diagnose Your Spiritual Health. I am a big fan of Whitney. The Ten Questions book is a great introduction to spiritual formation.

2. Donald Whitney. Spiritual Disciplines for the Christian Life. Whitney includes evangelism as a discipline which I like a lot!

I will be adding others, including (of course) books on evangelism and missions. If you are a student pastor, ask yourself what books you are encouraging your students to read (if any). Start with and remain lashed to the Bible, but also introduce them to other fine books.

I would love to hear from you a list of books you have found to be helpful for students.

A Word to Young Ladies from a Dad

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This weekend I have the honor of officiating a wedding for two young adults I love dearly.I have known Joy since her middle school years as we were in the same church.Shaun became a special student as he studied for the MDiv in Evangelism here. They met in a small group I had in my office in 2005.I am quite the remarkable matchmaker when I have no idea what I am doing!

I love being a dad. I love family. Nothing thrills me more than hanging out with Michelle and our children, and I have felt that way since they were born. Josh has become a young man now, and I can see our relationship transitioning into friendship more as time passes.

Now that Hannah has become a high school student, maturing into a beautiful, godly young lady, I have given much thought and prayer regarding the man who could one day be her husband.I love Hannah so much.I would die for her.I would also kill for her.If you are reading this please let every young man who knows her read that carefully. I would kill for her.And, it wouldn’t take much.

Michelle and I have tried to model for both Josh and Hannah what a home looks like. We are not perfect, but we have sought to center our home on Jesus. What I see in so many young people, especially young ladies, is a desire to have a home like that.In fact, I have recently had young ladies in my classes tell me they have hardly ever seen a loving, godly family until they came to seminary and observed some faculty and their families.

In my interaction with young adults, whether students in class or youth/college aged young adults in my merry travels, I often have a chance to sit down with individuals to find where they are spiritually. So, I thought I would take a stab at offering a little advice to young ladies, in particular those who do not have a lot of interaction with their fathers. I have a lot of lady students in that circumstance. Some have allowed me the honor of being a dad of sorts. Some allow me to be a part of their wedding when they meet the man of their dreams, which is really cool, as in this weekend.Others bring their boys by to see me, allowing me the honor of standing in as a father, weighing in on the young man’s readiness to be the man in her life.Michelle’s dad left her home when she was eight, and she has helped me a lot to know how to be a father figure to others.

So I thought I would write a little something that might encourage young ladies, especially young ladies who love Jesus but do not have a father involved in their lives. You might be surprised how many young ladies fit that description. I am not an expert at this. But I am a dad, and I love children, even grown up children who could be mine (after all, I am 49). So the following is not for guys, but for young ladies.

1. A father figure is a good thing. I have seen the need for young ladies to have an older, godly man to talk to about things that matter.I do not mean some cheesy middle-aged guy who is in a mid life crisis and feels better about himself by hanging out with young ladies. Eww. I mean a man whose only agenda is to help a young lady (and young men, for that matter) grow spiritually and make wise decisions.When I get to know a young lady well at seminary who sees me as a father, she has to get to know Michelle.And Hannah. And be involved in my family somewhat. And usually when they meet Michelle they are not so interested in what I say because she is a better listener that I am anyway! But a man of God who simply gives fatherly, Christ-honoring counsel and encouragement every young lady needs.

2. The friends you choose matter more than you think. I speak to youth often, and I tell the girls I am sure not one of them wants to get to my age and say, My life has been like this: “I have been married and divorced three times, I have two kids by two different men, and I cannot get them to pay child support.”Nobody wants to grow up into that. But many young ladies are heading there because of the choices they make about friends, both girl friends and guy friends. When you pick your friends you pick your future.I have recently seen three different young ladies in college who grew up in Christian homes move away and within a year trash all they knew about following Christ only to shack up with some bum who knew how to sweet talk them.I have a strong conviction that all of these ladies will have significant regrets in just a few years. If you run with dogs, you will get fleas.

3. Think long term. When you give your heart to a guy, you are heading the direction of making a commitment to grow old with him. Young ladies without a father in their life become easily dependent on a boyfriend. They often go from boyfriend to boyfriend, looking for love a teenaged boy will never be able to give, a father’s love.Even if you as a young lady find a truly godly young man who cares for you, he cannot be a father to you.Think about the long-term consequences of the relationships you have.Young ladies without a dad often hunger for affection, and respond one of two ways. They either become too affectionate with guys their age far two early, or they react to the opposite extreme, never letting a guy get close to them.Keep a long-term focus, and see the opportunity of marriage as a blessing for a lifetime.

4. Learn to know your Heavenly Father. I mentioned that Michelle’s dad left home when she was eight.She learned through her teenaged years to spend much time with God the Father. When I met her, I had never met anyone who had such a deep, intimate walk with her Father. That was so attractive to me.Rather than being bitter about what she did not have, she chose to seek the One who would be more than any earthly father could be.I am always blessed to hear from young ladies who visit with Michelle how much wisdom they gain from one conversation with her.Wisdom comes from our Father.

If you are a young lady from a broken home without a Dad in your life, remember this: you did not cause the breakup in your family. You did not cause your father to stop loving you. That was his choice.You are a precious, unique person created in the very image of God. You are loved by Jesus. Your past does not have to predict your future. Let the things missing in your life become a catalyst to run hard after God. Oh, and by the way, if you are not content to be single and to walk with Jesus, you really have no business being in a relationship with the opposite sex.

5. Begin to think now about starting a new legacy. If your home was not what you had hoped, begin to commit your life to Jesus so that when you marry, and when you have children, you will draw a line in the sand and begin a new heritage for your family.But if you will do that, and I meet so many young ladies who want that desperately, you start the process long before you marry. You begin to become the kind of Christ-follower that will be ready for that kind of marriage when the time comes.We have begun a new legacy at our home. I have diligently sought to give Hannah the affection and encouragement a daughter needs.

I read a quote by Dobson once that went something like this: “A good father leaves a stamp on his daughter that lasts her whole life.” I am sure that is true. But a bad or missing father can also leave scars.The good news is that Jesus Christ has a habit of removing scars.

I am not a Christian counselor, and I am sure my colleagues in counseling would give far better advice than I on this subject. But I know what I see, and I know the power of the Gospel.I know Jesus Christ can write a new story for your life.Let Him be the man of your life. And if you happen to be a young man or a dad, remember the wise counsel of Proverbs 20:7: “A righteous man will walk in his integrity, and his children are blessed after him.”

 

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