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Why You, and Especially If You Are Younger, Should Be at ADVANCE11

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In a couple of weeks the RDU area will host a gathering with some of the most significant leaders of our time talking about some of the most urgent issues of our day. Advance11 hits Raleigh May 4-5.  There is a special rate for students so you surely should come to this. For more info or to register go here.

Speakers for the event include some of the most articulate thinkers/leaders on the gospel, gospel-centrality, and missional Christianity on the planet: practitioners and thinkers who both teach well and live well the subjects they will address:

Tim Keller: The Yoda of Urban Church Planting, Keller rarely travels to speak. He has helped me personally to understand better the world of urban America, church planting, and biblically centered mercy ministry.

Alan Hirsch: author of many books related to mission Christianity, this Aussie has become a facebook friend whom I hope to fellowship with while here. He has a keen awareness of the need for the church to move into a missional posture.

Eric Mason: Urban leader who also spoke at our first Advance the Church gathering in 2009. Eric also has insight into the gospel’s effect in a city and its culture.

Several Southern Baptists will be leading this event which gives me joy.

Danny Akin: my president, my hero, and my boss. Akin gets the changeless Word of God and he gets now, something relatively few seem to be able to do. I thank God every day that I get to teach at SEBTS under his leadership. God is doing some special things in our time.

J.D. Greear: two time SEBTS grad and pastor of Summit Church, Greear has a new book coming out called Gospel that must be required reading for everyone on the planet :-) .  He is my former student and current friend and hero.

Darrin Patrick: pastor of Journey St Louis. I first met Darrin over coffee in St Louis a few years back, and have been blessed by his friendship and particularly by his outstanding book Church Planter.

Tyler Jones: pastor of Vintage21 in Raleigh and one of the bright young pastors in our time, Tyler impresses me not only with his passion and intellect, but by his teachable spirit. I sat in his office with a couple of other guys when the dream for what has become Advance began. I am happy to join Tyler in encouraging you to come to this gathering in 2011.

One more thing: any church leader, or anyone interested in the gospel should come to this. My daughter’s boyfriend is coming all the way from Florida to attend (well, that is not the only reason he is coming!).  But young adults, and especially young men, should make this event a priority. Why?

You have grown up in a time when you spend most of your time around others your age. Almost without realizing it, you can develop an attitude that others your age are the people to go to for advice, for challenge, or correction. There is a reason passages like Titus 2 encourage younger men and women to be taught by those older, and why Paul modeled mentoring a younger Timothy. You need, far more than you realize, the wisdom, the counsel, and the example of older men of God. At this event you will have the opportunity to hear from older men, from their 30s to senior status, who simply know more and have more wisdom than you.

Few things encourage me more than young men who yearn to grow, to be stretched, to be pushed, and I know a lot of them. In fact, most of the young men I know, which includes believers and non believers, yearn to learn from older men, and God has in fact given me great relationships with many. However, few things are more perplexing to me than young men who dismiss the wisdom of older men. No doubt some do so because the older men in their lives have not shown wisdom.  But the men at Advance will be a great model of a better way. So if you are a young man (or not) and know young men, encourage them especially to come to Advance. It could be a trajectory changer in ways unexpected.

The Conservative Resurgence a Generation Later: How Are We Doing?

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Last night Michelle and I attended a banquet with our faculty, trustees, and board of visitors. The banquet focused on showing appreciation to the faculty at SEBTS. I sat and enjoyed the evening with such great gratitude.

I am finishing my 16th year at SEBTS, which makes me one of the most seasoned profs at the school. We have grown dramatically, from around 1000 students when I came to something like 2700-2800 now. Our faculty has grown from the 20s to the 70s. I have such joy teaching with a faculty not only filled with world-class scholars, but with people who actually love students, the classroom, and the church.

President Akin took a moment to reflect on the goodness of God from the early days of the Conservative Resurgence, a time of renewal in the SBC when we as a convention took an unambiguous stand on the authority and inerrancy of Scripture.  As he beamed with gospel pride in the faculty assembled last night, I could not help but reminisce on one of the real concerns in the early CR days. I was only a seminary student then, but I was a foot soldier in the movement, and I remember the concern over where the faculty would come from if in fact the CR were successful (it was).  I am humbled and honored to be one of those faculty members today.

A little review: In 1979 I sat in a Baptist University classroom preparing for ministry in the SBC. That year, unknown to me, Adrian Rogers was elected president. That event strategically shifted the trajectory of the SBC. I for one am grateful, for there is no way I would be teaching at SEBTS today had that shift not happened.

We now stand just over 30 years later. How are we doing?

I wanted to take a brief look to see how we are doing, and as one who not only supported the CR in the 80s when we had no idea how things would turn out (I did not wait to see how things went to pick sides), I have had a long term view of our continuing trajectory. Let’s see how we are doing:

Leadership:  3 former SBC presidents in the CR era now lead 3 critical institutions: Tom Elliff, who will speak in chapel today,  now leads the IMB; Paige Patterson, an architect of the CR and the man who hired me at SEBTS, leads my alma mater SWBTS; Frank Page now heads the Executive Committee. Page’s role as SBC President included his visionary recognition that if changes beyond the affirmation of inerrancy did not occur, we were still in trouble. He was right.

What about the other agencies?

Al Mohler now leads the SBTS.  Mohler has not only become one of the most articulate defenders of biblical inerrancy, he and Danny Akin have been recognized as two of the more promising leaders of the future in the Evangelical Church in America.

Kevin Ezell leads NAMB, a faithful pastor who has had remarkable influence at SBTS, a school greatly changed by the CR.

Akin, a Criswell College grad (a small school in Dallas which has had a remarkable impact on the CR) and a protégé of Patterson, now leads SEBTS, a missions battleship heading to war for the gospel. I know I am prejudiced, but I am also right: there is no school who gets the importance of an uncompromising commitment to the Word of God AND the ability to take the Word to this culture like SEBTS.

Phil Roberts, a SBC blueblood whose dad led a state convention years before, was one of the young academics who helped to fill the void for professors during the changes brought about by the SBC. He taught early on at SEBTS under the leadership of Lewis Drummond.

We cannot forget Thom Rainer, who studied with Lewis Drummond, leads Lifeway Christian Resources. Another stand up man in the CR, Rainer has been a stellar leader in our time. His books have helped a generation of inerrantists reach people and grow churches.

Chuck Kelley leads NOBTS. Kelley for years taught evangelism there and has been unambiguous in his support of the inerrancy of Scripture.

Jeff Iorg, who recently spoke eloquently in chapel at SEBTS, is a contemporary of mine from SWBTS and another example of one who would fill the professor gap.

I could give many other examples. In the 70s and 80s the Indiana Baptist, the paper of the State Convention of Baptists in Indiana, provided the only state convention-based newspaper that unambiguously supported the CR.  I had the honor of serving in that convention right out of seminary. The Executive Director in Indiana in the late 80s and early 90s who wrote some of the most pointed articles of the era was Mark Coppenger. The editor of the paper during that same time was Gary Ledbetter. I served the convention first as a Home Missionary and then as State Evangelism Director. Today Coppenger teaches at Southern Seminary, Gary serves as editor of the state paper for the new and CR-produced Southern Baptists of Texas Convention, and I teach evangelism at SEBTS.

Then there is the immediate past president of the SBC, Johnny Hunt. I first heard Johnny preach in 1989. He was introduced as one of the shining examples of what happens when we stand on the Word. He still is. He is the one who led the current Great Commission Resurgence efforts, aided by several noted above. Ronnie Floyd, who chaired the GCR task force, has been another soldier in the CR.

As we celebrated last night it was not lost on me that we today stand in a continuum of leaders of the CR. But this continuum has not been static. Leaders have recognized over time that changes had to include more than an adoption of inerrancy. The CR was a starting point, a change of trajectory, but it was by no means the end. For instance:

Our leaders have recognized the growing need to reach the cities, the unchurched, those unengaged with the gospel. The fact that we have been successful in reaching people like us has at times blinded us from reaching the teeming masses who are not southern, white, or Republican.

This has led to a renewed focus on church planting. Such a focus has caused a lessening of focus on what had been our bread and butter evangelistically, programmatic and pulpit evangelism (evangelistic methods and evangelistic meetings/pastors). I for one do not think we should jettison those approaches that have helped us, but I completely agree with those who argue for a growing emphasis on planting churches among the unreached peoples of America.

Further, to borrow a phrase, an elephant in the room is that the very venues that once provided the opportunity for younger leaders to come into further responsibility have waned in their influence. For instance, across the country state evangelism conferences, once the largest attended meetings in state conventions, have increasingly older attendees and decreasing numbers overall. As a former evangelism director and someone who still speaks at this, that makes me sad to a certain extent. But today, to become a significant voice one must be effective in podcasting as much as in conferencing.  This fact is not a bad thing, as listening to a pastor’s sermon series via podcast in his local church arguably provides a better measurement of him as a leader than one sermon at a conference.

Another recognition by many today is that as pernicious as liberalism was and is, legalism can be just as deadly. However, some fear being called a liberal more than being called a legalist. Jesus condemned both unequivocally.  Legalism is a problem in the Southern church, and confusing preferences over unchanging truth should not be a legacy of the CR. I am grateful so many recognize the need to, as Jesus stated it, avoid the leaven of Herod, the Sadducees, AND the Pharisees.

We have also seen a deepening of theological conversation. Inerrancy in fact served to open the door for further conversations related to theology. We have always had Calvinists and non-Calvinists, for instance. During the CR those of a Calvinist persuasion had far less of a voice, with notable exceptions, than those more inclined to promote premillennial eschatology, for instance. So, the shift of conversation in more recent days from eschatology to soteriology has caused some to question our future. I for one am not alarmed, as historically we have seen the pendulum swing.  I am grateful for a renewed focus on the gospel, for in great historical awakenings the preaching that characterized such movements was not “how to have revival,” but a renewal of the preaching of the gospel. We see such a renewal today, and that is a legacy of the CR for which I am grateful.

Change is hard. When change begins, it is hard to control a movement. Sometimes it goes in directions some who began the movement did not intend. But I for one, as an early advocate of the CR, sit in wonder, joy, and thanksgiving at where we are today. There is much to be done. But I am excited about our trajectory.

Insanity: Fine as a Workout but Not as a LIfestyle

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“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” Albert Einstein

In college I worked during the summers on a construction crew. Rough people. One summer a guy on our crew had spent 34 years in jail for murder, another 26 for armed robbery. Most of the time those two summers I was the only believer in the group, the only one going to college, the only with (at least it seemed) long term goals.

These men loved to get to the weekend so they could drink their beer in great excess, watch sports on TV, and sometimes go fishing. Oh, and the 4th of July they loved to roast a goat and drink rum.

I would shake my head at these men. Such a lack of purpose. Such aimless lives. They would make fun of me, picking at my lack of work ethic because I only did 3 months a year what they did all year long., and then I just lifted books. They made fun of my Christianity. I did not always respond appropriately, and sometimes it got to me. But most of the time I was part of the crew and they accepted me in spite of my youth and my different worldview., and I tried my best to live a Christ-honoring life in front of them.

I realized one day how much I saw them through the eyes of self-pity. And, too often, through the eyes of self-righteousness. They did not come from the family I did. Oh, we did not have a lot, but we had each other and we had Jesus and my parents pushed me to live a life that mattered. These men had no goals greater than goat and rum on the 4th of July. I had to repent of my judgment of them while offering them the hope of Christ. After all, I was no better than them; I simply received a gift from God.

Then I made another observation. None of these men wanted to live the way they currently lived the rest of their lives. Not a single one wanted their current  lifestyle for their own children. But for some reason they seemed to think that if they just kept doing the same thing, somehow along the way they would get their lucky break and do something else. This was before a lottery or I am sure they would have played that also to up their odds.

I am around a lot of young adults these days both inside the church and outside. They are thoughtful, bright people. I love them. I have also learned that more than a few young adults, those I do not really know but hope to get to know, are quite similar to the men I mentioned above. They work in the service industry or hold some other job to pay the bills. They are in and out and back in college.  They typically go to work, go hang out with friends, often get smashed, and then do it all over again. But none of them who do that in their 20s want that in their 40s. Most want a family, kids, etc. But somehow from what I hear they have this idea, or many do, that their specific lot in life will change. But they just keep doing what they are doing.

Life is about more than being a glorified hamster running in a circle.

Maybe I am wrong about those observations. But I am sure about the next one. I see a lot of believers, people who love Jesus and have been changed by the gospel, who come to church regularly. They are not where they want to be in their gospel impact, or in their devotional life, or they see clear areas where they need to grow in relationships with others.  Yet they do little more about this fact than keep showing up at church and doing what they have been doing.

I am not sure a believer unsatisfied with his witness or character is a lot different from a construction worker who wants a new job, if in both cases they keep living life virtually unchanged and expected changes to happen.

Insanity is in fact doing the same thing and expecting different results.

Let’s be clear, when Jesus Christ changes a life through the power of the gospel, that is the work of God. We do nothing to earn it. It is God’s free gift and costs us nothing. But we in light of that gospel work have a call, to use Paul’s words, to “press toward the mark of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus” (Phil 3:14).  For some the needed change is theological, to rightly understand the gospel. But change is needed for sure.

I lost weight over the last two years and got in much better shape. Why? Not by doing the same thing.  I changed. I pushed. And I did it not to earn anything from God, but so that I could serve Him with greater energy and I pray for a longer time.

My impact among unchurched young adults is greater today than at any time in my life. Why? I changed my calendar to spend less time with my Christian brothers and sisters.

If insanity is doing the same and expecting different results, perhaps making clear, gospel-driven changes is the essence of sanity, or of a healthy mind. Perhaps it even helps us to have more of the mind of Christ.

What do you want to see changed? Perhaps the better question is, what are you changing?

Insanity is also the names of a new workout that is, in fact, insane. I did it for almost 30 days. It is a 60 day program. I mentor a group of young men and hammer them with the fact that men finish what they start, men do not quit, even when they over commit except in extreme cases. Men suck it up and finish the job. But I have an artificial hip and insanity was beginning to give that leg problems.

Sometimes discretion is the better part of valor. And sometimes the changes we try to better ourselves are unwise. So I sadly gave up on insanity (I do not recommend it for those who have a fake hip!). Instead, after getting some wisdom from my son, I started P90X again last Thursday. And, I am doing a Power90 group for the next 3 weeks. That should be exercise enough.

Insanity, in other words, is only a good word when it applies to an extreme workout program that sane people can do.  Otherwise, avoid insanity at all costs.

But do not avoid change.

The Quota for Wimps Has Been Met

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My last post had to do with modern day barbarians and featured some of my thoughts from a must read article written years ago by Terrence Moore entitled “Wimps and Barbarians.” Now I would like to offer some of his thoughts on the wimps of our time. The quota for wimps has in fact been met, but they are everywhere, especially in the church. Moore’s comments will be set apart in quotation marks followed by my thoughts. Again let me say that all men have a tendency to lean toward one extreme or the other, but a true man is one who is neither a wimp nor a barbarian.

Identifying the Wimp

“At the other extreme from true manliness is the wimp. Wimps are in many ways the opposite of barbarians. We would be mistaken, however, to classify wimps as simply young men without muscle. Often enough they are the stereotypical 98-pound weaklings who get sand kicked in their faces at the beach. But slightness of build and want of talent in sports do not make one a wimp. The diminutive and sickly James Madison was a man, just as was the towering and vigorous George Washington.”

Just as one can be a diminutive intellectual and be a barbarian, one can be manly on the outside and yet be a wimp. In football we have an expression for a man who looks manly, all muscular and athletic-looking, but who stumbles off the field the first time he is hit like a whipped two year old. We call him the “look like Tarzan, play like Jane” guy. In short, a wimp.

“If barbarians suffer from a misdirected manliness, wimps suffer from a want of manly spirit altogether. They lack what the ancient Greeks called thumos, the part of the soul that contains the assertive passions: pugnacity, enterprise, ambition, anger. Thumos compels a man to defend proximate goods: himself, his honor, his lady, his country; as well as universal goods: truth, beauty, goodness, justice. Without thumotic men to combat the cruel, the malevolent, and the unjust, goodness and honor hardly have a chance in our precarious world. But two conditions must be present for thumos to fulfill its mission. First, the soul must be properly ordered. Besides thumos, symbolized by the chest, the soul is composed of reason and appetites, symbolized by the head on the one hand and the stomach and loins on the other. Reason has the capacity to discern right from wrong, but it lacks the strength to act. Appetites, while necessary to keep the body healthy, pull the individual toward pleasures of a lower order….The second condition that must be present is a sufficient level of thumos to enable the man to rise to the defense of honor or goodness when required. Modern education and culture, however, have conspired to turn modern males into what C. S. Lewis called ‘men without chests,’ that is, wimps. The chest of the wimp has atrophied from want of early training.”

Moore quotes Lewis at this point: “We make men without chests and expect of them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honor and are shocked to find traitors in our midst. We castrate and bid the geldings be fruitful.”

Think of the recent beer commercials with men in everything from speedos to skinny jeans. They are mocked in the commercial, but they are embraced in the culture. A true man is a balanced man, who knows when to be patient and restrained, and when to step up and confront a challenge.

The Wimp and His Music

Moore continues: “Like the barbarian, the wimp is easily recognized by his personality and preoccupations. His main passion is music. Music does not serve him as it does the Platonic guardian, to balance his soul. Nor is he usually a performer or student of music. He has no affinity for classical symphony or opera. Rather, he finds that certain types of music evoke a mood of listless self-infatuation….his absorption with music is essentially a private refuge from the challenges of the world.”

The wimp is the guy who when he gets bad news or faces a challenge hides away in his bedroom with his earbuds and ipod.  Listening to music does not make one a wimp. Listening to music when he should be meeting challenges or facing responsibilities definitely does.

The Wimp and Women

Warning: some of you who read this may about to become angry. But keep reading. And remember, when you throw a rock into a pack of dogs, the dog that yells is the one that got hit!

“In addition to music, the wimp may take an interest in the opposite sex. But his approach to dating and relationships is different from the barbarian…..The wimp…has more complex reasons for wanting women. Although sex is certainly one of his desires, more than sex he needs affirmation. He desperately needs a girlfriend to boost his self-confidence. Having someone else notice him will somehow show the world that he is not a total loser. The wimp also needs someone to hear his laments, to commiserate with him when he is feeling down, to discover his secret self. Since he has few qualities or achievements to recommend him, he seeks to appear ‘interesting’ or mysterious. Initially, the wimp might seem amusing to an unsuspecting young lady and very different from the insensitive jocks and rowdies she has known. Ultimately, however, the wimp seeks to draw her into his web of melancholy and self-pity. The story always ends unhappily since romance cannot be based upon pity or the thin facade of personality….The wimp will begin the relationship by saying, ‘You’re the only one who understands me’ and end it by saying, ‘You don’t understand me at all.’ The truth is that there is not much to understand.”

Read those last two sentences again. I have met that guy far too many times. In that paragraph Moore just described a huge number of the single young men I know in their late teens and early 20s. That is why I have made more than a few angry with me when making this statement: If you are a guy and you have more girl friends than guy friends, you are in fact a wimp.  I have gotten a few emails and other responses to that quote. But Moore notes why in the paragraph above. You see, guy friends will confront other guys, whereas girls tend to be simply sympathetic. Men need men who will get up in their grill and challenge their stupidity (we all who are male have a remarkable propensity for stupidity), and men who are not wimps can take it, even if we do not like it.

Our Culture’s Failure to Produce Men

“The wimp is unmanly in other ways, especially when compared to young men in the past. Throughout history men have come of age by preparing for war, going to sea, felling forests, or even mastering Latin and Greek. Besides listening to music, however, how does the average wimp spend the most formative years of his life? Shopping….The wimp is a perfect consumer. In the largest sense, he consumes the liberties and public treasures his forefathers have passed on to him through their ‘blood, toil, tears, and sweat,’ without himself adding anything back to the common stock.”

Guys, get off Craigslist and put down your game controller and go do something that requires sweating. No, you do not have to join the marines. Maybe a good 3 months of P90X will do for starters. Or maybe just seeking out a band of brothers who will love you enough to challenge you to become a man.

Moore concludes this section with a salient point: “Our civilization cannot be sustained by barbarians or wimps; it needs true men.”

Now you see why a growing number of young men yearn for such series as Band of Brothers and such resources as Fight Clubs by Jonathan Dobson. More and more young men, especially young men who love Jesus, recognize the need to become what Mark Driscoll and others refer to as “the Dude,” a man, not a BAN, not a barbarian, and not a wimp. Truth is, all of us have a tendency to lean to one side or the other, toward barbaric behavior or the lifestyle of a wimp. Seek a more noble path. Seek a valiant life, a life that challenges you. Life life daily, and live it hard.  Find some men who will push you toward manhood and not simply join you in your perpetual immaturity.  And find older men who will show you by their lives how to be a man.

We need men.

Modern Day Barbarians

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I find intriguing the times when someone comments about a given feature of culture, and though the commentator does not make his observations from the perspective of a Christ-follower, his assessment of the times converges well with biblical truth. Ideas that are true may not originate with Scripture, but if true they will be consistent with God’s Word.

Take for instance young adults in our culture. Scripture does not see young adults as goofballs living in a “time out” between childhood and adulthood, although our culture has adopted this posture without so much as a whimper of protest.  I wrote an entire book called Raising the Bar confronting this issue.

Then I came across the article by Terrence Moore called Wimps and Barbarians. I keep returning to the article due to his insightful commentary on young men in our day.  I encourage you to read Moore’s words in their entirety HERE.  I simply want to take two articles to comment from the perspective of a Christ-follower on his commentary. His words will be set apart in quotes, followed by my thoughts. The section headings that follow are my own.

Moore’s article details the two extremes we see lived out in the majority of young men (in the church and outside, by the way) in Western culture.  He notes:

“Manhood is not simply a matter of being male and reaching a certain age. These are acts of nature; manhood is a sustained act of character. It is no easier to become a man than it is to become virtuous. In fact, the two are the same. The root of our old-fashioned word ‘virtue’ is the Latin word virtus, a derivative of vir, or man. To be virtuous is to be ‘manly.’ As Aristotle understood it, virtue is a ‘golden mean’ between the extremes of excess and deficiency. Too often among today’s young males, the extremes seem to predominate. One extreme suffers from an excess of manliness, or from misdirected and unrefined manly energies. The other suffers from a lack of manliness, a total want of manly spirit. Call them barbarians and wimps. So prevalent are these two errant types that the prescription for what ails our young males might be reduced to two simple injunctions: Don’t be a barbarian. Don’t be a wimp. What is left, ceteris paribus, will be a man.”

AN INTRODUCTION TO TODAY’S BARBARIANS

“Today’s barbarians are not hard to find. Like the barbarians of old, the new ones wander about in great packs. You can recognize them by their dress, their speech, their amusements, their manners, and their treatment of women. You will know them right away by their distinctive headgear. They wear baseball caps everywhere they go and in every situation: in class, at the table, indoors, outdoors, while taking a test, while watching a movie, while on a date. They wear these caps frontward, backward, and sideways. They will wear them in church and with suits, if ever a barbarian puts on a suit. Part security blanket, part good-luck charm, these distinctive head coverings unite each barbarian with the rest of the vast barbaric horde. Recognizing other barbarians by their ball caps, one barbarian can enter into a verbal exchange with another anywhere: in a men’s room, at an airport, in a movie theater. This exchange, which never quite reaches the level of conversation, might begin with, ‘Hey, what up?’ A traditional response: ‘Dude!’ The enlightening colloquy can go on for hours at increasingly high volumes. ‘You know, you know!’ ‘What I’m sayin’!’ ‘No way, man!’”

In my syllabus I tell young men not to wear ball caps in class. When I work with a worship band of young men I ask them not to wear caps when they lead worship. Am I being a prude? No, I am trying to help these men learn respect, and learn to be men not BANS (half boy half man).

THEIR DIVIDED LIVES

“Among the most popular barbarian activities are playing sports and lifting weights. There is, of course, nothing wrong with sports or physical training. Playing sports can encourage young males to cultivate several important manly virtues: courage, competitiveness, camaraderie, stamina, a sense of fairness…. [But] Today’s barbarians act as though they never leave the playing field or the gym. They wear the same clothes, speak the same language (just as loudly), spit and scratch themselves just as much, whether on the field or off…. As a result, they live almost a divided life. On the field, they can be serious, competitive, eager, and disciplined. Off the field, they are lazy, careless, disorganized, and disaffected. Such a divided life is the hallmark of barbarism.”

You see this in the BANS of our time: they can talk about sports all day long, but to engage in thoughtful conversation on matters of theology or on issues that actually pertain to life and godliness, even Christian young men tend to fail miserably. These are the young men who think because they have a job and show up for work they are therefore men. No, a boy at age 12 can run a paper route; that does not make him a man. Having enough motivation to show up at a job just to make money does not make a man. And, if you can talk eloquently about your ball team but have a hard time engaging in conversation about things that are not trivial, you are a barbarian.

DISRESPECT OF AUTHORITY

“Barbarians, strictly speaking,” writes Moore, “Have no manners. They shout out to each other in public as though the world were a playing field or a rock concert. To complement the shouting, there is a recognizable barbarian posture, carriage, and comportment. They slouch in their seats…. A particularly annoying barbarian habit is not looking you in the eye. He will look this way and that, shrug his shoulders, move his body in different directions, but rarely just stand in one place, look you in the eye, and say something intelligible. Speaking to adults used to be one of the first lessons a child learned. Proper speech and posture and other signs of respect helped to bring him into the community of civilized human beings. No longer.”

I have met with many young men in the role of a father for young ladies on our campus. I have discovered that there are young men training for ministry who have a hard time looking you straight in the eye and talking to you with conviction. They are rare, thankfully, but they do exist. If you are a young man, do you find conversation with men much older than you to be difficult, especially on important topics?

TREATMENT OF WOMEN

“Young males, of course, have always been rough around the edges. But in the past, their edges were smoothed, in part, by being introduced into female company. Boys learned to behave properly first from their mothers and later around other women and girls. They held open doors, pulled out chairs, stood up when a woman entered a room, stood up in public places to offer their seats, took off their hats in the presence of women, and carefully guarded their language so as not to offend the fair sex. All that is gone. In no other aspect of their conduct is barbarism more apparent among a large number of young men these days than in their treatment of women. Not only do they not show women any special regard. They go out of their way to bother them. A woman does not like to be yelled at by men in passing cars or from dormitory rooms…. In short, the company of women no longer brings out the best in young men. Around the opposite sex, the adolescent and post-adolescent males of today are at their worst.”

Boom. This is in fact true, including among believers: young men who relate best to young ladies via sarcasm and by picking at them (and there are a remarkably high number of young ladies who seem not to mind!).  Men PROTECT young ladies; they do not pester them.

So we have a telling description of one extreme of young men today. Do you know any? Do you see them around you, at work, in your church? Most of these young men do not even know  how pathetic they are acting because there are no older men in their lives to confront them. But mark my word, these men do not want to wake up one day in their 50s still floating from job to job, in and out of marriages, strangers to their own children. But many young men are heading that way.  Challenge these young men to be MEN, men who protect, who have conviction, who take the harder path, who see long term, and men who long to learn not from other barbarians, but from men.

Next post: the other side—the wimp.